It's the unsaid "I'm sorry's" that tear us apart...

Now. I know that Ab and I have only been married for three months, but I do realize that he and I have a few things that a lot of failed marriages are missing:
1) A relationship with Christ- It's amazing the peace that can come over you and how much more intense your love can be by having this influence and guide in your life.
2) Communication skills- Since day one, Ab and I have been very open and honest with each other about our feelings. Mad, sad, excited, scared, etc. We have both vocally communicated that it is our desire to know and share these things with each other.
3) The words "I'm Sorry"- It is AMAZING how these two little words can change you. Either by hearing them, not hearing them, or by saying them. People should never EXPECT you to know that they are sorry. If you feel it.. say it. By never resolving stupid little fights, or hurtful words, or even big fights, you never heal. Without healing, you continue to put up a tiny wall between you and your spouse.. lets call them bricks. To start with they don't seem too bad. Just a tiny stone on your heart that you or your partner might forget is there. Over time though, these bricks get built taller and and wider and with each argument are cemented into place. After too long, the wall is so built up with anger and frustration that people begin to resent, despise, and "stop loving" one another.

My husband just sent me the sweetest text ever, and it was an apology over a spat we had before work. I love that man to death, and I want to do the best I can to make sure there are no walls built up between us and on our hearts. I'm sorry can mean the world to someone. My advice (and then I'll end my "sermon" for the day) say I'm sorry. Mean it, and move on to love and cherish the person you chose to spend you life with. Time isn't worth wasting being mad with each other.

Now.. for all of you out there who are marriage veterans it might be easy to say "Awww cute, you can tell she's a newlywed" I'm sorry. NO. It infuriates me to hear that. You should ALWAYS love and care for your spouse with the same if not more, respect and admiration as the first day you were married. Otherwise... what are you doing???